It would be right to say that most adults have angry feelings, these are normal reactions to when things which frustrate us when things go wrong, or people feel an injustice has been done to them. Children, young people express these feelings in different ways.
In a young toddler or young child, frustration and anger is often expressed by tantrums, when they don’t get what they feel they should or get their own way. They can hit, scream, throw things and often destroy possessions. This is their way of saying they don’t like the emotions or feelings they have, and struggling to express these words. Consequently, their behaviours express their anger and frustration.
In teenagers anger can be expressed by being defiant and refusing to keep house rules. A teenager will often push against boundaries to increase their own independence or sense of self.
Young adults and children can often convey their anger by shouting, refusing to do what they’re told. Furthermore, a disturbing behaviour, Parents often witnessed or objects of is when a child starts to hit them or hurt them, often using spiteful words, which often cuts to the quick.
Young person or child could have many reasons for express their anger inappropriately, including the following:
- Struggling to come to terms with hormonal changes during puberty.
- Divorce or separation in parents.
- Sibling rivalry or jealousy towards a brother or sister.
- The feeling of rejection by parents or close family.
- Witnessing domestic violence.
- Being accepted into a friendship group or having problems, relationship difficulties within that group.
- Feeling powerless through being bullied or hurt.
- Struggling to cope with schoolwork, academic workload.
- Having to be a carer will look after parents or relatives.
- Breakup in a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend
Anger is a normal part of being human, but for some children, or young adult’s anger is often expressed inappropriately. Parents, grandparents, or adults close to the young people, young adults, often feel walking on egg shells and will often placate behaviours, rather than deal with them head-on.
At Eleos counselling is developing an anger management program for young people. Unlike most programs the Eleos counselling program is educational and fun for the young person to engage with. This course will be run groups, and rather seeing this as a punishment the young person, see this as an opportunity to find out how to express his or her anger. If you would like to know more, please go is the homepage and from there you will find our contact details,or click the link below annual be taken to the Eleos counselling website
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Well written. As a counsellor to young people and Father to a teenager I know this all very well 🙂 It is all about finding an appropriate way to express their anger. I know of a person who chopped wood when angry, but as he was so angry he kept getting more trees to chop and ended up selling the chopped wood, so when therapy had finished he had sorted through the root of the anger, so wasn’t as angry, and made good money selling the wood 🙂
I wish you well with your program for young people.