It would be right to say that most adults have angry feelings, these are normal reactions to when things which frustrate us when things go wrong, or people feel an injustice has been done to them. Children, young people express these feelings in different ways.
In a young toddler or young child, frustration and anger are often expressed by having tantrums, when they don’t get what they feel they should or get their own way. They can hit, scream, throw things and often destroy possessions. This is their way of saying they don’t like the emotions or feelings they have, and struggling to express these words. Consequently, their behaviours express their anger and frustration.
In teenagers anger can be expressed by being defiant and refusing to keep house rules. A teenager will often push against boundaries to increase their own independence or sense of self.
Young adults and children can often convey their anger by shouting, refusing to do what they’re told. Furthermore, Parents often witnessed or objects of aggression when a child starts to hit them or hurt them, often using spiteful words, which cuts to the quick.
Young person or child could have many reasons for express their anger inappropriately, including the following:
- Struggling to come to terms with hormonal changes during puberty.
- Divorce or separation in parents.
- Sibling rivalry or jealousy towards a brother or sister.
- The feeling of rejection by parents or close family.
- Witnessing domestic violence.
- Being accepted into a friendship group or having problems, relationship difficulties within that group.
- Feeling powerless through being bullied or hurt.
- Struggling to cope with schoolwork, academic workload.
- Having to be a carer will look after parents or relatives.
- Break-up of a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend
Anger is a normal part of being human, but for some children, or young adult’s anger is often expressed inappropriately. Parents, grandparents, or adults close to the young people, young adults, often feel walking on egg shells and will often placate behaviours, rather than deal with them head-on.
At Eleos counselling we are developing an anger management program for young people. Unlike most programs Eleos counselling program is educational and fun for the young person to engage with. This course will be running groups, and rather seeing this as a punishment the young person, see this as an opportunity to find out how to express his or her anger. If you would like to know more, please go is the homepage and from there you will find our contact details, or click the link below and you will be taken to the Eleos counselling website.